As humans we were given the choice of free-will. Essentially, our free-will is the choice to come from a place of surrender to our Higher Power or from a place of fear and ego. All day long, in everything we do, we have this choice. How am I going to react to this? The problem lies in the place where we forget we have a choice and out spews the first thing that pops into our head which is oftentimes our ego screaming loudly in our ear. The ego is designed to sabotage our happiness. It believes it is keeping us safe, but in truth it is only keeping us stuck in a lower vibrating energy.
We have all seen the caricature of the devil on the shoulder of the actor and an angel on the other shoulder. One is speaking words of Love and healing and the other is speaking words of fight and defense. The devil is trying to regain power and the angel is trying to stay in peace. Many of us, through events in childhood, have learned the way of defense and attack. We have either to choose to say it outwardly or we merely just think the thought and don’t say anything at all. Neither way serves us or the other person.
We hear often it is best to take the higher path. But why? Why should I do that when I wasn’t the one being mean or rude? I’m the one that deserves an apology! Well, fasten your seat belts, here it is:
Because Love shines light on the dark areas and fear does not. Yes, it is that simple. When we choose to show up in a place of Love no matter what, the situation automatically starts transforming. The issue for we humans is that we cannot always see the transformations immediately and our ego starts screaming at us to get our power back. We HAVE our power when we are calm and centered. Light and love always illuminates the dark not the other way around.
When we are in chaos with another it is like two Rams with their heads down battling to gain control and power. Ego fighting ego equals no winning, no healing. Eventually one Ram will tire enough to give up and let the other win. But nothing is solved. In human form, is this a true win? Does the winner actually feel happy and satisfied? Oh, yes, but for only a moment. Because the Light inside him knows that nothing was solved. That he merely won because either his words or his voice or his brawn was louder and that is all. But what he really knows is now he is a bully and he is stubborn. He may have won the fight, but the war is still raging on.
The only time we find healing in a situation is when one party, yes it just takes just one, to come from Love. People are more apt to listen to a loving stance than a harsh one. This does not mean that we don’t speak our truth and honor our desires, integrity or morals. It only means we do it with love.
