The Difference Between Needing and Wanting a Partner-
How to tell
the difference between being secure in self or wanting a partner to fill the
void within that you have not filled yourself.
Wanting your partner gives the “I enjoy having you in my
life” feel.
Needing your partner is “I only feel good about myself
when you are around or giving me compliments”.
Wanting your partner gives “I feel good about myself all
of the time”.
Needing your partner is “I will do most anything you say
to make you happy”.
Wanting your partner is “I will honor you while honoring
myself as well”.
Needing your partner is “I need to keep him/her happy or
he/she will leave me”.
Wanting your partner is “I love you and if you need to
exit the relationship, I will be ok”.
Needing your partner is “I can’t stand others giving you
attention because it is attention that is taken away from me”.
Wanting your partner is “I love seeing/watching how
others interact with you”.
Needing your partner is “I have very few boundaries when
it comes to you”.
Wanting your partner is “My boundaries are the same with
you as they are with others”.
Needing your partner is “Your goals and desires can come
before mine because your happiness matters the most to me”.
Wanting your partner is “Both of our goals are equally
important and we will work together to support each other”.
Needing your partner is “I am jealous”.
Wanting your partner is “I am secure in who I am”.
Needing your partner is “How did I get someone as great
as you?”
Wanting your partner is “I deserve a wonderful person equally
to what you deserve.”
Needing a partner is “I have a hard time expressing my
authenticity because I am too busy making up in my mind who you want me to be.”
Wanting a partner is “This is me. All of me.
Authentic me.”
Needing a partner is “I will adjust my morals and ethics
to accommodate a space in my life for you”.
Wanting a partner is “I am strong in my morals and I will
not be with someone who is not in alignment with them.”
Needing a partner is “I always have to look my very best
when I am around you”.
Wanting a partner is “Sometimes I am not dressed to the
nines and that is ok.”
If
you discovered that you fell into more of the “Needing” department rather than
the “Wanting” department, you have just unlocked a key element to your healing
path and manifesting an emotionally healthy relationship. What you have unearthed, is that the core
need that is not being met is love
within self. If we don’t love
ourselves, we will desperately seek it outside of ourselves and consequently
cause potential upheaval in our relationships.
The key to aligning yourself to manifest a “Want” relationship is to do
the work necessary to love and nurture yourself first. This is where the magic happens!
~Kristen
Brown
