“We tried to talk it over, but the words got in the way”. George Benson
Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and you can feel what the other is trying to say, but when you listen to his words, it doesn’t jive…? Why is it as human beings we need the words? Why can’t we go with what our heart/intuition is hearing? I use to get caught up in that a lot. And I occasionally fall into that old habit still. It is something that comes easily to me within subject matters that aren’t that important to me, but when it’s an emotionally charged topic, I seemed to struggle more. My human need to feel safe and in control gets in the way. One of my biggest lessons of 2010 was to listen with my whole body and not just to the string of the nouns and verbs, especially in emotionally charged, personal situations. You might think it a difficult task? Maybe at first, but with all things, it takes patience of self and practice. Taking a minute before or even during a conversation of such and taking a few deep cleansing, centering breaths helps immensely!
When one can figuratively step back, get quiet within and listen with his whole body, the truth becomes obvious. I believe it is important to remember we all come from a plethora of different backgrounds, fears and beliefs, thus, making speech communication difficult at times. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Are you willing to try something new? How about feeling your way through a conversation rather than reacting to another’s words? How about sensing where the truth is and then taking careful consideration when choosing your words? And when in doubt, be willing to restate back to your partner what it is you hear they are saying. This is not to say we are always going to like what we are hearing or that people are being honest with themselves, much less to us, but it is one, giant step closer to doing away with miscommunication. Good communication is vital in living an authentic life.
Blessings to you and all who you communicate with. J
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